The Key to Happiness
is found in the Understanding of Oneness,
in compassion and attachement
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When I have recently listened to a speech of HH the Dalai Lama, I thought and understood that what he talked about was the key to happiness and I have decided to share that with you.
Keep your body and mind pure. What is meant is obvious. Eat natural food and think positive thoughts, not negative ones.
a) When you are grocery shopping, look at the label and do not buy foods with more than 3 ingredients on the list of ingredients. Most of industrial produced foods should be avoided. Buy more natural foods and these are: meat, fish, poultry, vegetables, fruit and berries, and nuts.
b) Think positive thoughts and believe that positive things will happen: In some of my articles I explain that whenever you catch yourself having a negative thought, whisk it away and focus on something beautiful and positive.
c) You can physically and mentally cleanse yourself with meditation.
Do not think thoughts that bring suffering into your life or into the life of others. Think thoughts that have happiness and pleasure as a result.
We are all single persons amongst many. If you are only thinking of yourself, your goals and wishes and your happiness, you will not stop your suffering and pain. You will profit much more, if you also think of other people and how to help them to live a better and happier life. This is, because we are all one and if you just think of yourself, not helping people who suffer and require help, you too will suffer as we are all one on many levels.
We are all linked with each other
1. We are linked in our minds
2. we are linked in this life and
3. we are linked on this planet
4. we are linked in what we understand as our reality.
If you wish someone something bad, it is you who will suffer.
If you do harm to someone, it is you who will suffer.
As we are all one in our mind, all people who are near you (geographically near you and in your thoughts near you) will influence you and be influenced from you, as they are part of you and you are part of the all. If someone suffers, also you will feel miserable. It does not matter, who caused the suffering, you or someone else.
The Key to Happiness is in the NOW
f you take care solely for your own happiness, you will not attain it. In a superior sphere, there is only NOW. And you should think of the now, as you could also suffer from past as from future sufferings. This means that you should focus on the present moment and not think backward or forward to what is negative, because these thoughts make you suffer.
The Key to Happiness is in bringing happiness to others
If you exhibit compassion or rather commiseration for the suffering of others, it will help you to overcome your pain. Help someone who needs help and you will feel good about having helped.
If you only think of your own happiness and joy, you can’t achieve it. You are not whole, if you don’t let others gain with you. If you help others to be happy and feel happiness, you will be happier and feel a strong happiness.
If you reject selfishness and get rid of self-centeredness, you will tremendously gain.
If you pray or meditate or just think, think of all others and not only of yourself, your own goals and your own happiness.
When you carry happiness and joy to others, you will benefit and bring more happiness and joy to yourself.
If something happens in one part of the world, the rest of the world is impacted by it. We all have to think as part of us, meaning that we are all part of a oneness. You should more think as WE, instead as me.
When you are angry, it is the I, the ego that engages with an object. If you fully understand that objects have no reality, you will settle down and stop your anger.
That was the Key to Happiness from the point of view of HH the Dalai Lama.
Happiness has an Impact on Your Productivity and Effectiveness
Your moods are a reflection of your emotions. If you have mood swings, you
have to do something about it, because every time you are in a less good mood it stops you achieving your goals. Even though you try hard, you don’t get further on your way to change your life and you wonder what the reason for this is.
I know the reason when I am not feeling so good and I then do something which cheers me up. It makes me happy when I help someone. When you immediately do something which makes you feel good, whenever you do not feel so great, the times in which I don’t feel so good will be shorter and shorter.
The reasons for a bad mood or a not so good mood are numerous. It can be the weather, the daytime, the food you ate, something someone said, something you heard in the news and of course it can be bigger issues in your life: such as financial problems, problems in a relationship, problems with your kids or someone in your family got sick.
If you meet someone and tell him that you are in a bad mood and explain the reason, it will not really help you, but if you decide to smile at that person and say something enjoyable, you will get a positive response, which will be positive for you. This is like an echo. It comes back as you call in.
I say that friends are not trash bags and one should not throw all the bad stuff on them to get rid of it. Throw the bad mood away before you are meeting anyone and do as if you are in a good mood. You will receive a good mood in exchange.
Take the time to figure out the reason for your bad mood and immediately do something about it. Its good to have a certain routine, which helps you in such moments.
Some more tips as part of the key to happiness and on how to change a bad mood and find more happiness:
You are the master of your own happiness. If you are not happy, there is no one else to blame but you.
Sit down and relax or go for a walk and think about what makes you happy and what you have to change about your life to be happy. Write it down and work out a plan on how to achieve the goals which will lead you to be happy.
Make it a habit to smile. A smile make you feel happy and it makes people whom you meet happy.
Taking a brisk walk or doing any kind of workout is increasing hormones, which are responsible for feeling happy. Look at someone who comes home from doing sports. They are all feeling good and also filled with energy.
The foods you eat have an impact on how good you feel. Eating more fresh foods such as fruits and vegetables will make you feel good. But you also need good protein as in lean meat and fish.
Your Key to Happiness List: Make a list of what makes you feel good and keep this list somewhere, where you can quickly grab it, whenever you need it. And when you feel being in a bad mood, choose something from this list to cheer you up.
Make Others Happy and You Will Feel Happiness
You already know that this is an important part of the Key to Happiness
Make others feel happy, it will make you feel good. Say something nice, make little presents, be attentive and pay compliments.
Make anyone who comes in contact with you feel good and happy. When you go to a store, find something nice to say to the people you meet there. This includes the people who work in that store. If you see an employee that you have seen before, tell him that it is nice to meet him again. When you got advise, say that you find that advise helpful. If you have dinner in a restaurant and you enjoyed the food, ask the waiter to tell the chef that you enjoyed his cooking.
Tell your partner what you like about him. If you are a man, have a good look at your lady partner and give her a compliment for her dress or something that you find is looking good. Don’t say anything that you don’t believe. If you have children, tell them what you like about them.
You can tell your colleagues at work that you enjoy working with them. If you are the boss, you can tell your team that they do great work. Tell an employee that you are happy to have him/her in your team or whatever would be nice and appropriate to say.
You must not constantly tell others how great they are. People, who surround you, might question, if you became insane. Well, we seldom are told from others what is great about us. No one is used to it. But you can do it from time to time.
Telling others what you like about them, you will not only make others happy, you will feel great. Try it, you will be surprised how wonderfully people take it. You will get lots of warm smiles back and in most cases people will tell you what they find great about you.
What about this advice as part of the key to happiness?
Give others little presents
It doesn’t have to be a special day that you bring flowers or a scent to your lady-partner. Get a little something that your male-partner would enjoy. Make your children a little present from time to time. You could get a book about a subject that one of your children is interested in.
Make one person happy with a little present from time to time. It will make you happier.
An invitation to dinner is a present
Invite your partner for dinner to a special restaurant. Or prepare a special dinner at home.
Every now and than think about something special with which you make someone happy. Make it your special day. Start tomorrow. Whenever you want to feel good, make someone else happy.
The Key to Happiness is in the ALL
When you improve attachment, look at all dimensions.
You have to give up distorted and harmful thoughts, such as anger, hate, jealousy and greed. Instead of hate feel kindheartedness. Instead of anger feel joy. It is a decision what you think and what you feel. It is Your Decision!
Improve a holistic view of things. See not only one facet of an object or a situation, but see them from several points of view, from several directions and dimensions.
For most people the appearance plays a large part. Instead of focusing only on one facet - the appearance level, find out what the exact nature of things is, the true appearance of it. If you always do that, you will calm down and experience a deeper pleasure, a greater happiness.
To realize what reality is, do not only look at the external appearance, instead understand the reality of things. If you have the impression that things or others are not dependent of others, you are wrong. Everything, you, every other person and every thing, is part of the all, as we all are part of the all.
The visual appearance is only perceived, but is something else. It just seems that things have their impartial reality. But this is an illusion. It only appears to you that things actually exist and that they are appart from each other.
Objects have no genuine reality. The conception that things have their unique nature is false. Formal reality doesn’t exist. Things have no real nature.
When you have negative emotions, you give meaning and criteria to what you feel negative about, which makes no sense.
You might now think that there is emptiness. There is no emptiness. What is the characteristic of emptiness? To say that matter has no true nature does not necessarily mean that the existence of objects is negated; only the separate existence is negated. Things have no impartial existence. Practically nothing exists impartial from the all there is.
Understanding that you would have no worries and no suffering, but live your life with more happiness and joy is the key to happiness. Give up the single mindedness of focusing on the external appearance of matter and think more of the interdependency of everything. Stop focusing on objects. They just don’t have any intrinsic significance or reality.
If you make happiness dependend that something or someone might make you happy, you will not find real and lasting happiness. Real and lasting happiness should be part of your mindset and is a habit. Make happiness your usual characteristic and you will feel and radiate it. If you are in the lasting happiness, you will draw happy people, happy situations and wonderful things toward you. That is the real key to happiness.